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[LeonieKelly18]

13 - 16 year old are tough to coach. I've had a little experience with these age groups helping run our U13 side and skippering our 3rd XI for two seasons. Leonie, who covered for you while you were away? Was it someone who has experience of coaching kids already? This age range are always going to act up if they get an opportunity. Is it possible that your replacement wasn't up to the job?

You said yourself they are a little precocious but I get the impression that you don't have the same problems as your replacement did. If you're upset that they acted up while you were away then I would have to agree with others that you'd be better off explaining to them that they have let you down rather than just beasting them. I can see how it would be embarassing having someone think that they're like that all the time and that you're in charge of a mob! Again, maybe you're a better coach than the person who said that they were bad kids.

the coach that toke over is my own coach i know he is a serious good coach.

but i dont really have problems with kids or their behavior being on your own with that age group when you yourself is 19 is a challenge and having one group like i said that has played as long as i have and they are on mens level and kids that have just started is my problem.

but i took in consideration what people said on here and when they misbehaved i didn't let them join in with the things they liked which seemed to help!

[LeonieKelly18]

I would love to see your coaching philosophy (not in a condescending way). You come across as a very autocratic coach, which has its benefits and also its drawbacks. Respect is something that is earned, and demanding that your players respect some-one will not work in the slightest, it will garner perhaps (at best) grudging respect, but that is an environment where players will be petrified of making mistakes, and will not learn anything. It is well documented that the best learning takes place during failure, and fear of failure will not create good players. To say that they have their heads up their backsides doesn't to me show some-one who is able to get the best out of their players, and it doesn't sound like a great environment to learn. I suggest you hold a players meeting and get them to come up with a solid set of ground rules that are attainable and easily kept to. I also suggest that 'getting them to do as they're told' is the wrong attitude as you need to make them believe in what they are doing and buy into it, and make them independent learners. This is the easiest way imo to differentiate a coaching session, and asking questions of various players is far more effective than telling them what they need to do at every point of a session.

ohw wauw i think your getting me completely wrong, i dont ask for respect at all and we have a seriously good laugh during the session and if they make mistakes they learn from them. 
i just asked for help with punishment and as my old coach always gave me fitness when i didnt behave i thought it would help. if i would have thought it was my way or the high way i wouldnt be on here asking for help would i now?
im a 19 year old girl coaching 16 year old boys who are all very dominant and ive known since we where babies. thats why i asked help.
im used to way younger childeren or men this is a first for me.
but as i read the posts on here i didnt use the fitness as a punishment i did as you people said i toke the fun things away.

please dont get me wrong because i love coaching i really do i just wanted help.and ive learnt from what you people have said
 

[LeonieKelly18]

btw. punishment might be the wrong word. i just dont know what to call it otherwise..

[fatbats]

I think words have been misplaced

I think she meant how best to help install discipline rather than punishment as discipline is needed to become a top player

[LeonieKelly18]

I think words have been misplaced

I think she meant how best to help install discipline rather than punishment as discipline is needed to become a top player

yes thats what i ment!

[Fezballoh]

I agree you've got your work cut out for you there! It's always harder to assume a role of authority when you've come up from the ranks so to speak. You're gonna find out what works for you soon enough. Stick at it though as I think bringing good kids through is one of the most rewarding things in the game. My U13's are all 19/20 now and breaking into the first team. Amazing to see!