Any advice/opinions on this are much appreciated!
My situation is as such. I am 21, in my second season captaining my clubs Sunday and Academy teams, with whom I have enjoyed a fair bit of success, despite generally having a very young team, mostly under 14s. In today's game (I have said what happened in the 2015 season topic), I had one adult (not including myself), one u18, one u17, two u15s and five u14s, most of whom I know well and had sorted the batting and bowling plans to suit this. Unfortunately I have had issues today with the under 18 and the under 17, which spoiled a very good win for my lads for me.
Firstly the u18. He batted 5 and got 23, then opened the bowling and got 6 overs. I didn't particularly want to open with him, but he doesn't get much to do most Saturdays and arguing with him is like banging your head on a wall, so I let him open up. However, I have apparently gone 'power mad' as captain, despite the fact I have been getting as many people involved in the game as possible. This started after he moved fielders when he had finished bowling into positions I didn't want them in. As soon as I saw this I moved them back and told him to stop moving my field around.
Now the u17. He opened the batting, but got a duck. He then nagged me basically from the time he came back to the pavilion until I went out to bat to let him open the bowling and bowl pace. He is an off spinner. Then, for the entire innings, he was nagging to let him bowl pace, and it came to a point that I rather bluntly told him to shut up and get on with it, and that I would bowl him only if he bowled spin. When the u18 heard me saying at drinks to him that if he bowled pace I would take him off, I got the 'power mad' comment. I feel my insistence was justified as in one over of spin, he took two wickets to finish the game off, but there was a bad atmosphere after the game from the two players mentioned.
These two are reasonably established league players, so I expect them to set an example to the others who aren't playing in the 1s or 2s. However, I felt that they were trying to undermine me, were just outright defying my instructions, or at times were trying to bully me into letting them get their way. I know I am learning more every game I captain, and that it is impossible to keep everyone happy (the u17s brother batted 10 and didnt bowl as my other bowlers ran through the opposition and I can understand why he was annoyed.) I have said to my mum, who sorts out the teams for me, that I don't want the u18 playing the next few games as I am fed up with his attitude, but the other lad was out of character.
Any advice on dealing with difficult team mates? I am generally quiet but a thinking cricketer and try to lead by example, demanding respect by proving myself as the leader with bat or ball, leading a young team playing a decent level of innovative attacking cricket, but today was the most frustrating game I have captained (7 in total in the last two seasons with 4 wins, 3 losses) because of the way some of my senior players acted, and they made my job a lot more difficult than it needed to be today.