But anyway what difference does the bow make, either slight or large or none
Not much. It's more important to have some ability. You could have the best bat in the world, but it won't do you any good if you can't wield it properly
Get some coaching, get some experience, make some runs. There's loads of really great advice on here, but your local club with it's local coaches who actually see you play will make a huge difference to you. It's really clear you want to improve and have the best kit etc, but actually playing the game is the best way to learn. Play and practice as often as you can. Listen to people. You will get there, but there is no fast track.