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[LeonieKelly18]

so i'm coaching this guy who could be great at the moment poor fitness but he has the technical smoothness with his cricket skills just need to change little things. Like his confidence.

just had a session with him and he doesn't trust him self with the actions. like with fielding he first missed every ball because he was trying to not look stupid which made him look like a complete idiot at last i got him to attack the ball and it was fantastic got every ball perfect and threw the ball back in perfect.

How do i get him to be more confident in his ability's and not worrying about what he looks like or doing it wrong.
 

[fatbats]

Confidence is the hardest thing to get into people so I feel your pain

If its him not wanting to look stupid it does seem like personal confidence lacking but confidence in his surroundings and peers

Of you can get the group together supporting each other no matter what it may free the person up to just be them and let natural ability out

[Number4]

Positive reinforcement works wonders.. You know... Good boy Rover good boy

[400notout]

I don't want this to come across the wrong way, and I might have gauged the situation wrong completely, so please ignore if so!
What age is he?
Does he train like that with other coaches?
Or is it possible he's intimidated by you as a Female coach or trying too hard to impress, I know I was always a lot less comfortable at school with a male teacher.
Again, please don't take this the wrong way, it might just be a lack of confidence as you say.

[procricket]

Performance pyramid I use all the time and after being on a chris akabusi life coach lecture it all made scenes.

Sports psychology is vastly underated

[LeonieKelly18]

Confidence is the hardest thing to get into people so I feel your pain

If its him not wanting to look stupid it does seem like personal confidence lacking but confidence in his surroundings and peers

Of you can get the group together supporting each other no matter what it may free the person up to just be them and let natural ability out

Its 1on1 sessions though nobody around and he doesnt trust him self to hit the ball properly or show aggressiveness in his bowling action.

Positive reinforcement works wonders.. You know... Good boy Rover good boy

i do that all the time but he keeps giving me a look of.. seriously leo im not a little boy or dog.   

i might have to add he is 29 and twice my size..  so twice my age and my size  i think if i say good boy or something he will feel even worse.


After every training i make a plan of what we did, what he did well and what we need to work on.

[LeonieKelly18]

I don't want this to come across the wrong way, and I might have gauged the situation wrong completely, so please ignore if so!
What age is he?
Does he train like that with other coaches?
Or is it possible he's intimidated by you as a Female coach or trying too hard to impress, I know I was always a lot less comfortable at school with a male teacher.
Again, please don't take this the wrong way, it might just be a lack of confidence as you say.

HAHA dont worry seriously your trying to help me out! haha
he is 29 he trains at our club at times and with me.
he wanted me to coach him he asked me, he has known me for a long time and know my skills with playing and coaching.

Performance pyramid I use all the time and after being on a chris akabusi life coach lecture it all made scenes.

Sports psychology is vastly underated

could you explain how to use it.? because i could use it myself as well but i have no idea how to use sports psychology.

[fatbats]

Did he ask you for the coaching or did you approach him or was he sent for coaching??

[400notout]

Confidence is a difficult aspect to teach, I would say its more character, some people have it naturally. Some people have to work hard to fake it for the while during which they improve and evenually trick themselves into it or realise they really are talented.
Mindset is the key, certain players thrive on Positive Compliments, so throw as much in as you can until you judge how they affect him.
Otherwise, since you've known him for a long time, I don't think it would be outrageous to just ask him out right why he feels low on confidence as it helps him to understand where you are coming from.

[Number4]

Its 1on1 sessions though nobody around and he doesnt trust him self to hit the ball properly or show aggressiveness in his bowling action.

i do that all the time but he keeps giving me a look of.. seriously leo im not a little boy or dog.   

i might have to add he is 29 and twice my size..  so twice my age and my size  i think if i say good boy or something he will feel even worse.


After every training i make a plan of what we did, what he did well and what we need to work on.

I don't mean to literally say "good boy". That wouldn't go down well with any guy haha

There are many ways to give praise without sounding fake or sarcastic.

When giving praise make sure you use their name.. That's everyone's favourite word.. Hearing their own name.

[procricket]

HAHA dont worry seriously your trying to help me out! haha
he is 29 he trains at our club at times and with me.
he wanted me to coach him he asked me, he has known me for a long time and know my skills with playing and coaching.

could you explain how to use it.? because i could use it myself as well but i have no idea how to use sports psychology.

It hard I'am no practiser as somebody has alighted too it all about different people with different needs first.

Building them up but realistically doing it so they approach the crease in the best possible mindset to be productive.

My mind set is and will always be mask the weakness through excellence make the good things exercellant.


Times have moved on since I was alas and I was batting with a old Lancashire Player I was struggling and he just came up to me and said "son he will get you out so it your job to score as many as you can till he does stop fanning around".

[LeonieKelly18]

Did he ask you for the coaching or did you approach him or was he sent for coaching??

he asked me, he chose me over other free coaching.

Confidence is a difficult aspect to teach, I would say its more character, some people have it naturally. Some people have to work hard to fake it for the while during which they improve and evenually trick themselves into it or realise they really are talented.
Mindset is the key, certain players thrive on Positive Compliments, so throw as much in as you can until you judge how they affect him.
Otherwise, since you've known him for a long time, I don't think it would be outrageous to just ask him out right why he feels low on confidence as it helps him to understand where you are coming from.

thank you that's seriously usefull! i'll ask him next session and i try to give him as many compliments as i can

I don't mean to literally say "good boy". That wouldn't go down well with any guy haha

There are many ways to give praise without sounding fake or sarcastic.

When giving praise make sure you use their name.. That's everyone's favourite word.. Hearing their own name.

haha i know but still sounded funny.  i do it all the time but he looks at me like saying no it wasnt good at all... if you get what i mean

[Manormanic]

Its a vicious cycle really - the only real way to build confidence is through success but it appears to be the lack of confidence that is causing the lack of success...

A good trick which might work is to talk to the guy about things he does well - it might be sporting or professionally - and get him to internalise the feeling of confidence that he has in relation to those things.

Failing that, you might have to go down the Sargeant Major route for this one...

[procricket]

My practise is the basic best case worst case I use it in all forms of my life.

People worry so much about things.

It about getting the player onto the pitch in the best possible mental condition to performe at there optimum skill set.

[fatbats]

Maybe he feels comfortable with you as his friend that's why asked you to coach him but not free due to not wanting to look like an idiot in front of his friend

So as has been said maybe a chat would work wonders to free up that feeling