i think my stock response to batting problems threads is as follows:
"contact Buzz, ask very nicely for his Batting Manual, read it"
however in the meantime let me tell you what works for me. (much of this heavily informed by aforementioned manual)
Know your game
What shots are you good at? Which ones do you often get out to? Play more of the former and less of the latter!
Affect the bowler
You mention that you were waiting for the bad ball and none arrived. I'm sure this is the case occasionally, but often you need to force the issue a bit. There are several ways of doing this:
1. Turn a reasonable ball into a scoring shot
Ok, so it wasn't a rank long hop but there's a gap in the field where you can comfortably push a length ball and take a single. You're off strike, the bowler has to re-plan for your batting partner and you get +1 on your score.
2. Move around the crease
Let's assume your strong shot is the straight drive, but the pesky bowler keeps bowling 5th stump lines. Why not take a step across to off and look to hit him straight? Of course there is a little more risk in this approach, but it will make the bowler readjust his line. Similarly if you leave well outside off most bowlers will get bored and attack the stumps. Essentially make him bowl to your strengths.
3. Move the field around
Most teams at my level will set up with a slip and a gully early on in the innings. If this is the case I often look to guide anything sightly wide into the gap in this area and take a single. This usually results in an extra fielder being moved in which obviously opens up a gap somewhere else. Of course we are increasing the risk slightly - make sure you keep the ball down!
4. Take a risk
Sometimes you need to force the issue a bit and make the oppo captain react to you. Early in the game the field will be in and it might be difficult to get singles or find the gap. In this situation, going aerial could be considered a safe shot. For a seamer, my release shot is a controlled chip over the bowler's head or a slightly less controlled carve over extra cover. Against a tight spinner you might find that tw*tting him through midwicket has the desired effect. In any case, you'll soon find the field goes back and you have plenty of space to take singles! Of course, you need to pick the right ball to hit and make good clean contact...
The point is you need to have a plan and not just go out there hoping to hit the bad ball.